How Do I Forgive? The following six steps are designed for any of us who are still struggling with forgiving someone else, or ourselves. Several years ago, I was at my wit’s end about a certain individual, and through prayer and discernment, our Lord provided the following 6 steps. These reminders helped a lot with the person with whom I’d been struggling, and with several others along the journey as well. These are the 6 steps: 1. See the other person (the offender) through

How Do I Forgive? My dad died in November of 1985, at 59 years old. He’d been a pretty big abuser of alcohol for most of his adult life. His dad was a mean drunk, who caused all kinds of problems in my dad’s family. I’m quite sure my dad drank excessively, to try the numb the pain of his own childhood. I’m quite sure my dad’s relationship with his dad was painful. There were never any words of reconciliation or forgiveness. I’m sure he’d wished for a very different kind of da

How Do I Forgive? In my years of praying and thinking about forgiveness, I’ve concluded that we ultimately come to an important crossroads about forgiving. Will we finally DECIDE to forgive, or not? This reflection will look at good reasons to make a decision to forgive. Let’s look first at what we NO LONGER are doing, when we make the decision to forgive: Not judging others or holding them in contempt or hatred. No longer calling others’ names or badmouthing them behind thei